Happiness is a subjective feeling that is defined differently by each individual. Finding happiness in recovery is an important aspect of staying sober.
Learning to find joy without the use of substances can be challenging, especially for those who have long associated using and drinking with having fun. Here are some ways to increase happiness in sobriety:
Surround yourself with positive people. Negativity sucks happiness away, so avoid people who complain and put you down.
Exercise regularly
Physical activity releases endorphins in the body which create a natural high that boosts happiness levels. It also gives you a sense of achievement as you meet exercise goals and milestones which will help to give you confidence that you can achieve long-term sobriety. Letting go of grudges and resentment towards people who have hurt you or that you have hurt is crucial for happiness in recovery. It takes a lot of effort to hold onto resentment, so it is important to let it go.
Let go of grudges
If someone wronged you — an unfaithful partner, a toxic coworker or your childhood bully — it's tempting to nurse those negative feelings and stay mad. But grudges only hurt you by keeping you stuck in a negative mindset. And if they fester for too long, you may even start to resent other people and yourself.
"When we hold onto anger and resentment, we're actually traumatizing ourselves over and over again," says Clarity Clinic therapist Emily Abrams. To break the cycle, try adding distance to your relationship with the person or situation: Move away from it (even if only mentally), clear out your space, and if you can, surround yourself with positive people.
Then, work on letting go of your grudges. The first step is to write out your resentment — including what happened, why you feel the way you do, and how you want to change it — as though you are writing a letter to the person who wronged you. This exercise is a powerful tool for recognizing that you were wronged and then forgiving them.
Spend time with people you love
Whether it is your family, friends or pets, spending quality time with the people who matter to you is a great way to boost happiness. This does not mean you have to go out and buy gifts or do elaborate displays of affection; simply sitting down for a meal with your loved ones or going on a walk together can make a huge difference.
In addition, social connections can help reduce stress and anxiety. Studies have shown that those who spend more time with their families and friends experience higher life satisfaction than those who do not.
Happiness can seem elusive at times but it is possible to achieve in recovery. Being sober allows you to enjoy the things that bring you joy and create stronger relationships with those who are important to you. Recovering from addiction also brings happiness to those around you as well. Seeing your loved ones successfully navigate recovery can provide a sense of security and peace that is uplifting for everyone.
Give back to the community
Giving back to the community is a great way to feel a sense of purpose in sobriety. It is also a fun way to meet new people and connect with your local area in an engaging manner. There are many different ways to give back to your community, from volunteering at a shelter or school to organizing a clean-up event.
Even a small gesture can make a huge difference. For example, you could pay for the coffee of a stranger in line or hold the elevator for someone. You could offer your professional skills as well, such as by helping a neighbor with household chores or by writing press releases for local charities.
Many local organizations are always looking for volunteers, donations, and funding. These include hospitals, schools, and places of worship. You can also say thank you to local doctors, nurses, police officers, shop workers, and front-line employees for their efforts by sending them treats or cards.
